*As a belated 2015 New Years Resolution, I decided I would write a daily (or, almost daily, I know some days I just won’t be able to find the time) blog answering a thought provoking question from a long list of questions I found here in a quest of self exploration.
Today’s Chosen Question :
If you had the opportunity to get a message across to a large group of people, what would your message be?
I would want people to stop and think before they act when it comes to how they treat other people. Especially over the last five years, I have seen people act in mind-blowingly dismissive ways toward others, as if they somehow convinced themselves that no ones feelings matter but their own. I don’t know if its technology that has desensitized people or parents not teaching their children to respect others, but its getting frighteningly bad and I would want to remind everyone that if you have walked a mile in a persons shoes, you have NO BUSINESS WHATSOEVER judging them. We have all felt, at some time or another, like no one can understand us because no one else has been through what we have been through. You know what? That is 100% accurate. No one else has ever had your unique combination of family history, friendships, relationships, both failed and successful, disabilities, difficulties, struggles, strengths, passions, and more. NO ONE knows what its like to be you but you, so its literally absurd to judge how a person feels, thinks, or reacts based on your particular combination of life experiences and how they have taught you to think, feel, and react. We are all such a unique mixture of biology and environment and literally no one will react/think/feel the same way you did about -insert situation here- because they are not you, and vice versa. This is all stuff I was taught early on in life and I have always tried to be understanding toward peoples differences even when they were frustrating to me or inexplicable, and sometimes I struggle with it when people do mind-blowingly thoughtless things, but I am aware, and I do try. SOme people…. just literally live their lives in such a self-righteous state that I struggle to understand how we grew up on the same planet.
Err, I was headed down Rant Lane there, but circling back around, the main message I would want to get across is “That person you just scoffed at/shit talked/did something mean to? Guess what, they have just as many feelings as you do, and if you wouldn’t want someone to treat you that way, you shouldn’t treat them that way.” It seems so simple and obvious, but some people, sadly, don’t seem to understand that concept at all.
Kell Frillman - Author 