Daily question, reflected upon from this list.
Today’s Question : If you could instill one piece of advice in a newborn baby’s mind, what advice would you give?
“Not only accept, but CELEBRATE, any human being who takes steps to be their truest selves; don’t ever develop the arrogance it takes to think that you have any right or business passing judgement on another if their choices are not harming other people.”
My most prominent cases of trauma and psychological struggle definitely come from people belittling me, judging me, and making me feel like for a plethora of different reasons, I’m just not good enough. As an adult, I struggle to “un-learn” those things and I’ve finally learned (after many years, and many incidences) to just directly, bluntly and swiftly cut anyone or anything out of my life that has made me feel unequal to others, but I notice that I used the word “struggle” above and that is an unfortunate, accurate description of my daily life, mainly because I’m not a particularly resilient person. When I’m hurt, it lingers with me and I can distract myself from it, but it’s essentially putting a band-aid on a wound and every time it comes off it starts bleeding again because it doesn’t really heal. It’s difficult to remember to tend to so many wounds and to keep them freshly bandaged every day. It’s not about holding on to anger or anything like that, it’s just that pain changes the things you have to do and the effort you have to make in order to find happiness and peace inside of each and every day.
If people were more innately loving instead of innately discriminating, if people raised their children to be accepting of all sorts of different beliefs, cultures and ways of life, there would be a whole world of emotionally, mentally and psychologically healthy people out there. Right now, more of us are damaged than not and that’s not how things are supposed to be.
Kell Frillman - Author 