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For the sake of blogging and self-exploration and contemplation, I answer a question a day off of this list.
Today’s question : Is it more important to love or be loved?
This question irks me. I don’t think we should need validation from other people to find value in ourselves, but in all honesty we are built to crave others acceptance and it can be very painful when we don’t receive it. I don’t know about “love” because I don’t particularly like that word in general, but I think its just as important for us to care for and validate others as it is for others to care for and validate us. We all have that innate need and most of us are born with the ability to have compassion toward others that enables us to fulfill that need in others. So which is more important? They both are. Its far more difficult to get others to give you the validation you need when you willingly provide that same need for them, its a mutual merry-go-round that can either feed back and forth in a positive, uplifting way, or it can isolate us in a negative way. I think people need people, and although “love” might be complicated, that nitty gritty fact is actual a rather simple social construct that is ingrained in our DNA.
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