** The first two books in my six part dystopian series have officially made their way out into the world! Check them out!
For the sake of blogging and self-exploration and contemplation, I’ve been slowly making my way through answering questions from this list.
Today’s question : Why must you love someone enough to let them go?
I can’t help but roll my eyes at this cliche, even if there’s some level of irritating truth to it. I suppose the best response I can give is the simplistic one; love does not equal possession or control. I’ve been in relationships – more specifically, unhealthy relationships and I’ve learned the hard way that there is nothing to be gained from standing on your tip-toes at the very edge of a cliff with nothing but your significant other holding you back, and you’re begging and pleading for them to stay because you know the moment they let go, you’ll fall – and you’ll keep falling. There’s nothing positive for you in a relationship if both you, and your partner, don’t fully want to be in the relationship. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone if they don’t love you back, or if they aren’t able to commit to you. Let them go, not because “if they come back, they’re yours” (I hate that continuation of the cliche) but because you don’t deserve to live like that. You deserve someone who is just as willingly present as you are, and someone who is willing to show you the truth in that rather than just say it. If you don’t feel they are in it as much as you are, tell them, but don’t cling to them or you’ll just make them, and yourself, miserable.
Kell Frillman - Author 