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For the sake of blogging, self-exploration, and contemplation, I’ve been slowly making my way through answering questions from this list
Today’s Question: What are the primary components of a happy life?
There are millions of things that happen in life in which we have no control over. They can be painful. They can be frustrating. They can put a damper on our smile. Don’t try to control those things or change them, you will only make yourself more miserable.
Four years ago, I stopped trying to be happy. Instead, I decided to shoot for “peaceful” instead. The weird thing was that by changing my focus, I ended up finding at least some level of happiness by simply being my most authentic self, by getting back to my roots and remembering the things that got me through my childhood (horses, writing, a small group of close, trusted friends, etc) and I really re-focused my life back on my original interests. I just wanted to get away from situations that brought me to people that I was completely incompatible with because our values clashed. I value loyalty above personal gain. What I stumbled into was people that would befriend you, but stab you in the back if it would help them get something that they wanted. I wanted out of that pain. I wanted out of that drama. I wanted out of that struggle, and that loneliness. I wanted peace.
So, what are the primary components of a happy life? In my opinion, peace, and authenticity. Be exactly who you are. Don’t compromise your passions or your values. Don’t allow anyone to treat you poorly or make you feel small, invalidated, or worthless, or basically like you’re not good enough, or flawed, when you are your most authentic self. Don’t let anyone tell you who you are, or who you should be. Live your life exactly how you want to live it without compromise. You’ll feel peace, and you may feel some happiness, too.