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For the sake of blogging, self-exploration, and contemplation, I’ve been slowly making my way through answering questions from this list
Today’s Question: What is the most valuable life lesson you learned from your parents?
Oh boy, that’s a loaded question. I don’t think very highly of my parents as parents.
To be clear, I don’t hate my parents. They are individuals, they are humans, they are flawed just like everyone else. It just happens to be my experience, and my opinion, that the ways in which they are flawed often caused a lot of pain for me at times in my life when I felt vulnerable and rather helpless, and exploited, intentionally or not, by them for their own dramas and life-ideals. Neither of them are horrible human beings, but they just weren’t good parents.
Of course our parents have an influence on the adults that we all grow up to be, but I attribute most of my life lessons derived from my parents as examples of what not to do / how not to treat people.
To answer this question more directly, the biggest life lesson that I learned from my parents is to remind myself to try my absolute best to have empathy for others, no matter what. My parents were great at ignoring / minimizing / gas lighting / invalidating any and all of my feelings… and that has caused a great amount of struggle for me well into my adulthood. I still struggle with self-esteem issues, and with maintaining healthy boundaries with people that don’t often respect them. I’ve gotten much better / healthier, but there are still miles of road ahead. There are opportunities every day to be the person that you want to be, and to treat others how you want to be treated.