*** The first three books in my six-part dystopian series have officially made their way out into the world! Check them out!For the sake of blogging, self-exploration, and contemplation, I’ve been slowly making my way through answering questions from this list
Today’s Question: What is the biggest lie you once believed was true?
That’s an interesting question. I could go with a “universal lie” and say, Santa. As oh-so-adorable as Christmas Wonder is for children, I do find that lie to be morally conflicting. I don’t remember when or how I discovered or was told that Santa wasn’t actually real, but is it really okay to lie to kids like that? What message does that send?
I could go darker and say, my ex-fiance claiming that he loved me. Or, if I want to more accurate and state an unpopular opinion, that the concept of love that we’re taught to believe in, is real.
Give me a chance to explain before the inevitable eye-roll. It’s not that I don’t believe in love. I do think that two people can come together and have this incredible connection, and that’s how I suppose you’d describe the term ‘love.’ What I believe is a lie is the concept that love is lasting.
As human beings, we are ALWAYS changing and evolving. I’m not the same person I was five years ago, at all. Five years ago, I wasn’t the same person that I was five years prior. So, say you meet someone, and you two connect, and you honestly believe that you’re in love. According to society, the next thing to do at that point is declare a long-term relationship either by a legal marriage, or personal long-term commitment. But how likely is that you will both change and evolve together, in the same ways that you fit as a couple, RIGHT NOW? The chances are not impossible as a few lucky people on this earth will be married 50+ years and claim they are as in love as they were when they first met, but it is rare. Most people that are longterm married or longterm together are just comfortable in the relationship and they stick to the commitment because that’s what they believe that they are supposed to do. Even more people nowadays are splitting up or getting divorces because its slowly becoming more acceptable in society to do so. So, yeah, I guess in my view, the biggest lie is that love is lasting.
Call me a Scrooge, call me jealous, call me bitter, but I don’t feel that way. I don’t feel angry about it. If anything, I feel more peaceful having come to that realization. I’m not saying that no one should try, but I do think that its important to keep your wits about you in any relationship, to not slip in so deep that you don’t know who you are without that person. Maintain your individual identity with, and without, being “in love.”