DailyBlog: What do you wish you had done differently?

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For the sake of blogging, self-exploration, and contemplation, I’ve been slowly making my way through answering questions from this list

Today’s Question: What do you wish you had done differently?

I feel like I’ve already answered different version of this same question at least a few times on this list, but I feel like skipping a question would be like “cheating” so here we are.

It’s easy to look back at things from our pasts that didn’t work out how we wanted them to and say, “I’d do things differently!” but I suspect the great majority of us handled most situations the best that we could in that moment with the tools – both physical and emotional – that we had at that time. There are many situations that I would handle differently if I could go back to that time but AS the person that I am now – but what does that really matter? That’s never going to happen. Doc Brown is not going to show up with a flying time machine and I am not going to be able to go back and intervene in my past or warn myself to stay away from the guy who would destroy my heart, or that I should have planned better for my future from a younger age. All I can do is continue to learn and grow each and every day. Regrets over how we handled our pasts don’t seem to serve any purpose to me other than self-misery. It serves no purpose for us to judge ourselves, or shame ourselves. Who we were in the past is okay, and who we are now is okay. Even when we make mistakes and people get hurt, all we can do is offer them the deserved apology, and prove that we are sincere in that apology with the choice to do things differently going forward.

In conclusion — this question is not a positive one. I’d rather focus on how I can continue to cope with this stressful thing called ‘Life’ with as little damage as possible, to myself and to others.

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