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For the sake of blogging, self-exploration, and contemplation, I’ve been slowly making my way through answering questions from this list
Today’s Question: What makes love last?
Oh boy, I am the WRONG person to answer this question! I have a perceived cynical view on “love.”
Here’s the thing. We as human beings are constantly evolving and changing. (Well, most of us. Some people are stunted when it comes to personal growth. But I don’t want to digress.) It’s pretty cool when you connect with someone on a level that we refer to as “love.” But it’s you, as the exact person that you are right now, connecting with someone else, as the exact person that they are in that moment. There is absolutely NO guarantees whatsoever that you will both grow and evolve in the same direction. Sure, there are some couples who have been married 60 years who claim they are as much in love right now as they were when they first got married, but there is nothing that you can do to ensure that, nothing whatsoever.
Some people make the commitment to each other to stick it out together no matter what. That is not easy, and it may not succeed if one or both of you ends up unhappy and unfulfilled in the process. The only thing that can ever make love last is pure circumstantial luck, which you cannot control.
Do you want to take that gamble? A lot of people do, as evidence by marriage and relationships. I don’t. I’ve chosen to be relationship-free, single by choice, whatever you want to call it, because I’ve been through the downward spiral of relationships falling apart and I don’t handle it well. I can’t play unpredictable gambling games with my emotions.
So uh, for all of you who are taking that gamble? Good luck, and may the odds be ever in your favor 🙂
Kell Frillman - Author 