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For the sake of blogging, self-exploration, and contemplation, I’ve been slowly making my way through answering questions from this list
Today’s Question: What good comes from suffering?
I don’t know that I believe any “good” comes from suffering, but this is a complicated question to ponder and respond to. I look at someone like, my biological sister, who hasn’t really known a bad day in her whole life. Before you come at me – yes, we all have bad days, but she hasn’t known trauma. She has lived a very insular life and can’t really comprehend existence outside of a very specific type of life path. Sometimes I envy that type of existence, but I also see how problematic it is to the world at large. Sometimes I feel like my suffering has made me a wider, more compassionate person, but I also see other people who have suffered turning into cold-hearted monsters (“I want to make you hurt like I hurt” whereas my mindset is more like, “I never want someone else to feel that way I’ve felt”)
I mean, suffering does open your eyes, it forces you to find strength you didn’t know you had, but it also leaves you with trauma and triggers and causes you to feel isolated despite the common knowledge that a LOT of us have suffered to the point of trauma, triggers, and PTSD. You can cheerlead all you want for a situation that you can’t change because you want the mindset of “Well I can’t change it so I need to see the good in it / make the best of it” but it doesn’t change the fact that it still sucks. Would I rather be the wiser, more compassionate person that I am because I have suffered, or would I rather be oblivious and live in an ignorant bubble? I honestly don’t know. “The grass is always greener” I suppose. I’m glad I am the person that I am, but I’m not going to pretend that I’m okay with how I got there. Sure, some “good” may come out of suffering (ie personal growth), but suffering in and of itself is not Good. You shouldn’t have to suffer just to grow.