**As a belated 2015 New Years Resolution, I decided I would write a daily (or, almost daily, I know some days I just won’t be able to find the time) blog answering a thought provoking question from a long list of questions I found here in a quest of self exploration.
Today’s Chosen Question :
What’s the most sensible thing you’ve ever heard someone say?
I am going to have to go with a classic here; treat others how you want to be treated. I honestly don’t think anything can possibly be more straight-forward than that. Sometimes its easier said than done, and even over the past few weeks I have found it difficult to do at times. I had a pretty bad falling-out with my ex-roommate and she has been flying off of her rocker making crazed, “radical interpretations of the text” accusations and trashing me to anyone who will listen, etc, and I have been really tempted at times to defend myself and call her out on all of her wild stories and say mean things to and about her to counter the things she is saying about me – but if I did that, wouldn’t I just essentially be her? All of this behavior is hurtful, and mostly intentional – she is trying to hurt me – and I cannot do or say anything that is going to stop her from her crusade. But I do get to choose how I want to react and what kind of person I want to be. I chose to walk away, literally. I chose to look to the future and focus on the positive things, and positive people, in my life. We used to be good friends and I could say a lot of things that would hurt her feelings and embarrass her but I don’t like that she is trying to do that to me so it would be pretty hypocritical for me to do the same thing to her.
I know sometimes walking away is quite difficult, especially when someone knows what buttons to push with you but if you only reciprocate kind behaviors to others you will find people acting kind to you in return and those are the people you should focus on. Putting it bluntly, “haters gonna hate.” Anger and cruelty is kind of like a yoyo, if you toss it out it comes right back at you. In summation, treat others how you want to be treated is a really important tool of guidance for how you should make your choices and how you should live your life.
Kell Frillman - Author 